Divorce Tips for Women: Advice from Family Law Attorneys
Going through a divorce can be a draining experience, particularly for women. There are so many expectations about the roles women have in a marriage, and the ways women should comport themselves when a marriage ends. While these socially constructed ideas are at times unfair, it’s important to keep them in mind. This is something that divorce attorneys Fred A. Dunsing, Lucy H. Deakins, and Joseph W. Galera stress to clients.
Our family law offices serve Denver as well as Avon and Vail, CO. Right now, the teams at our legal offices would like to offer some helpful advice for women as they are going through a divorce.
Consider Your Priorities in a Divorce
It’s important to think of your priorities at the end of a marriage. That could mean fighting for certain assets, like your home. It might also mean fighting for sole custody of your children and making sure you receive child support from your spouse. Perhaps creating a good co-parenting arrangement is most important. It varies from person to person, which is why you should consider your priorities carefully.
Gather Copies of All Financial Materials
Have copies of relevant financial documents ready for your divorce. This includes bank statements, credit card statements, tax returns, and so forth. Looking over these documents can also help you consider your current living expenses and how to devise a smart budget given your immediate needs and future expenses.
Seek Legal Representation
Even if you and your spouse are going to end a marriage amicably, it’s important to find good legal representation. A lawyer you trust can help you navigate the divorce process, and will be a strong advocate for you to ensure fairness.
Make sure to ask family members, friends, and colleagues for recommendations. If you’re searching for divorce lawyers without recommendations, carefully vet attorneys before you settle on one.
Make Time for Your Children
Even though a divorce can be time consuming and emotionally exhausting, you should make time for your children. Be there physically and emotionally. Remember that a divorce can be difficult on them as well, and your priorities as a mother need to come first.
Try to Keep Things Cordial with Your Former Spouse
If you can, try to maintain a cordial relationship with your former spouse. This can help make the divorce process go by smoother. This isn’t always possible given the unfortunate ways that some marriages end. If you can at least ensure a professional approach to correspondence, that’s helpful. This is where a good divorce lawyer can be essential as a go-between.
Be Assertive When It Comes to Your Needs
Keeping a relationship with a former spouse cordial does not mean giving in to all their demands. It’s important that you also be assertive when your former spouse tries to overstep boundaries and make major power grabs. Again, this is where a good divorce attorney can help ensure fairness.
Reach Out to Family and Friends for Emotional Support
Going through a divorce can take a lot out of you. Don’t be hesitant to speak with people in your support network. Your relatives and friends can help you shoulder the emotional weight of the divorce. If you have a therapist or counselor, be sure to speak with them about what you’re going through. It’s always better to feel like you’re not alone in your struggles.
Be Cautious About Your Use of Social Media
Whether it’s Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Snapchat, you need to be careful about posts on social media. Oversharing or posting while in an angry or vulnerable state could have negative repercussions on divorce proceedings.
Try to stay off social media if you can. If you are on social media and want to post something, really think about what you’re sharing and if it’s necessary to put that out in the public. If you hesitate before posting, that’s usually a good indication you should not post.
Contact Dunsing, Deakins & Galera, LLC
If you would like more information about getting a divorce and what to expect during the proceedings, be sure to contact our team of family law attorneys. You can reach our law firm in Denver by calling (303) 758-8981, and our location in Avon by calling (970) 343-0023.